Are You Cool Enough to Get Feedback?
Feedback is something we encounter everywhere from friendships, family, groups, social circles, and even at work. It’s so common that you’ve probably heard things like, “You’re always acting like a know-it-all. I get it too!” or “Ugh, my boss is so annoying, telling me to fix my presentation when it was already good.” But here’s the real question we should be asking ourselves, are we “cool” enough to take feedback? Let’s dive into it
Don’t Let “Bias” Become Your “Biasa” (Default)
Consciously or unconsciously, we often struggle with feedback because we focus on who is giving the feedback instead of what the feedback is about
Let’s compare, if your partner says, “Don’t stay up too late or you’ll get sick” and your boss says, “Please improve the presentation so it’s clearer and better” notice the difference? The way we process it is different, even though the intent is similar. This bias can become so ingrained that it affects our professionalism. So how can we avoid misinterpreting feedback from others?
Be an Empty Cup
“Empty your cup when receiving feedback, and if anything remains, let it be openness”
Be open to receiving feedback like an “empty cup”. Take in all the feedback first, then curate what will actually help you improve or make things better. Just be sure not to take feedback from random netijenn too seriously 😜
Taking Steps on a Minefield
Take action based on the feedback you receive. Think through each step carefully and act quickly because your goal lies ahead. After all, improvement is the real purpose of feedback. If a friend says, “You should be more confident when speaking in front of people, try practicing in front of a mirror” turn it into a plan. For example, set a calendar reminder to practice speaking in front of a mirror every Sunday
Mmm…
It seems like we’ve been focusing on the person receiving feedback the whole time. But what about the person giving it? Shouldn’t they also think before speaking? Yes, it’s frustrating when someone gives thoughtless feedback. But hey, we’ve all been there, right? Before getting upset, let’s empty our cups and think it through…
TIPS FOR GIVING FEEDBACK!!!
SATU!!!
Give them “space” and “the right moment”. Let them know what feedback you want to offer, perhaps privately and one-on-one heart-to-heart *asek, not in front of others. This helps build trust and creates a more relaxed and comfortable atmosphere
DUA!!!
Be clear, empathetic, and constructive. Choose your words carefully. Provide feedback that’s direct and includes suggestions for improvement. Don’t be thoughtless or drag things out unnecessarily — definitely avoid gossiping
TIGA!!!
Don’t be overly aggressive like this tip… Keep it calm!
Terakhir.
In the end, remember that feedback is meant to help you and others grow and improve. Don’t shy away from giving it. Constructive feedback will help you reach your goals faster than trying to achieve them alone
The words above will only be “cool” if you put them into action!
Tambahan
Thank you so much for reading this article. I hope it helps you give and receive feedback more effectively. This is my third post on Medium, and I look forward to writing more in the future!
